Beth

Monday Moment of Inspiration: On Joy…and Sharks?

It’s time for a bit of real talk. This month, this entire year in fact, has been a bit weird. I wouldn’t say it’s been bad, but it’s been weird. Lots of changes. New routines to get used to. A mind on overdrive and a lot of soul searching. If we’re honest, probably a little too much time thinking about things that have happened in the past and asking the great question of why. That’s something my family is pretty good at; we dwell on things and we hold grudges for longer than we should. It’s the Irish in us. Or maybe it’s the German in us. I’m not sure.

At any rate, with things being so odd and different and new, I’ve been trying to focus on only the things that truly bring me joy. Everything else is getting Marie Kondo’d out the door. Every time I let go of a thing or a responsibility that doesn’t bring me joy it fills me with a lightness I can’t even describe. The hardest word in the English language is the word no. At least it is for me. I’m guessing I’m not alone in that. I’m slowly getting better at using it or at the very least I’m getting better at the “slow yes” I talked about earlier this year.

So, what brings me joy? We have this game that we play with Ollie at night when he can’t sleep about where we talk about the things we like. I always say that I like Ollie, I like Nate, I like Taylor. I like my family. I like to sing, bake, read and paint. I like to thrift shop. And most of all, I like spending time with Ollie and Nate. Boom. It’s all so simple right? At the core, those are the things that truly bring me joy. If something comes along that doesn’t really fit with these things, well, then I don’t really have time for it anymore. I’ve realized I’m becoming more of a homebody as I get older. But you know what, many days nothing makes me happier than being curled up under my Unicorn blanket with a glass of wine and the Great British Baking Show on TV. Sometimes I feel like I should be doing more, out in the world, socializing and doing ALL.THE.THINGS. But when I push myself to do those things, I’m just not happy. I’m going to accept this about myself. I’m a Homebody and I like it. If others don’t like me because of it, well, screw them.

As for the dwelling, the looking at the past and the questioning what happened and wondering and all that, I’m going to really try hard to take some advice from Kelly Clarkson and Kaley Cuoco from the Big Bang Theory. Kaley was on Kelly’s new talk show a couple of weeks ago and talking about how she doesn’t look back at the past, she is like a shark. Sharks don’t swim backwards. I love that analogy. You all know I’m a Unicorn, but maybe I need to be a shark. I only want to go forward. Maybe I need to be a new type of shark. Unicorn Shark, doo doo doo doo doo, Unicorn Shark, doo doo doo doo doo doo, Unicorn Shark, doo doo doo doo doo, Unicorn Shark….

I will now duck to avoid objects being thrown at me for getting that lovely song stuck in your head. But for real, on we go. Sharks don’t swim backward. And as my tattoo that quotes one of my favorite fish says, “just keep swimming.”

5 thoughts on “Monday Moment of Inspiration: On Joy…and Sharks?

  1. Omg beth. I love this post so much and also that analogy of a shark not swimming backwards (which begs the question, are there any fish that do??).

    Anyway.

    I also love the practice you have of giving thanks or reciting the things you love. In my older age (ahem), I find that I take so much joy and comfort in the simple things in life: coffee with a friend. Cooking at home with Bryan. A good book. I too am a bit of a homebody and I feel like I’m not ashamed to admit that anymore, actually it’s kind of liberating to say it out loud 😊

    Anyway, you do you, girlfriend. Don’t worry about what other people might think—chances are, it’s a reflection on themselves anyway. And also thank you so much for getting that song stuck in my head Lolol.

  2. I’m sorry that this year hasn’t been all that great – well, weird as you put it – and that you had to do some figuring things out. Sometimes life likes to rock us on our foundations a little bit, shift us off our paths, so that we can see the simple beauty in what was there all along. The things and people that really matter.
    Backwards is boring. Keep choosing to push forward on the uncharted paths girl. xox

  3. I’m sorry that this month and year has had its trying moments for you. I can relate to overthinking and asking why and I swear if holding a grudge was a sport, I’d have a load of trophies and medals. Sigh.

    I am so glad that you are focusing on what brings you joy and letting go of what doesn’t. It makes a huge difference and the more you do it, the easier it gets. I’ve held onto a personal hurt for many years and I feel like at 36 I should know where I stand. I can ask why?? 1000 times a day and I won’t be any closer to knowing. Some days realizing this is easy (why waste the time wondering?). Other times I find it really difficult to just let go.

    I know I need to look ahead (embrace my inner shark) and swim forwards. I still think about that post you did on Phoebe’s quote about the bitter barn and playing in the hay!

  4. I definitely could use that advice sometimes – don’t look backward, just keep going. I’m glad you’re figuring out what makes you happy and that being a Homebody is part of that, even if not everyone loves it. You have to be yourself and there’s nothing wrong with liking to be home and hanging out.

    -Lauren

  5. Oh, I don’t know if it’s a German thing, but I definitely dwell on the past, the whys and what ifs…. so, I feel you on that and try to tell myself that I also need to be more of a shark. Hang in there, you’re doing the work and walking in the right direction. I mean, swimming.

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