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Monday Moment of Inspiration 9.16.19

Today I thought I’d share a Monday Moment of Inspiration. I saw a quote on Facebook last week on some parenting site and it spoke volumes to me, so I had to share it here.

As parents, I think it’s a natural thing for us to look at other children and start playing the comparison game. We do it practically from the moment they are born. For example, Child A over here started sleeping through the night as soon as they came home from the hospital, but Child B over here didn’t sleep through the night until they were 15 months old. Child A started walking by 10 months, Child B didn’t walk until they were past their first birthday. Child A potty trained super fast, Child B you fear will go to college still wearing a Pull-Up (I kid). If you are the parents of Child B, you might find yourself wondering what Child A’s parents are doing differently and you might start to question your own parenting skills. I would know, I’m the parent of Child B.

Oliver has been quite advanced in many areas, especially with his verbal skills, but there were plenty of things he took his sweet time on. I found myself stuck in that comparison game more times than I’d like to admit. But you know what? All of those things did eventually happen. He took a long time to sleep through the night, but guess what? He is a rockstar sleeper now (sometimes almost TOO well). Once he started walking he pretty much started running and hasn’t stopped. He figured out the potty business. It all happened when HE was ready, when it was his time.

The other area I used to wonder if we had made the right choice and I found myself in that comparison trap again was with his preschool. He never truly seemed to love school that much and I worried he wouldn’t enjoy or do well when it came time for kindergarten. Flash forward to this year. We’re only three weeks in, but guess what? He LOVES school. He’s doing so well. He is shining. Maybe before now it just wasn’t his time to shine.

I realize I’m babbling here and maybe not making a lot of sense, but I guess what I’m getting at is that I love this quote, every child is different and like the sun and the moon, they will shine when it’s their own time. And let me tell you, once they do shine, they will shine so bright you’ll practically need shades.

4 thoughts on “Monday Moment of Inspiration 9.16.19

  1. YES. I really struggled with this when I had just Olivia. I was SO sure I was screwing her up and she wasn’t doing things like all the other kids. Well she’s 14 now and she’s pretty damn smart and awesome so she was just fine. Plus I think with each subsequent kid you care less and less because you know they are all going to get there and the pace doesn’t matter.

  2. I think it’s hard to NOT play the comparison game, not just with kids, but in all areas of our lives. This quote is a good reminder that we’re all different and that we all have our strength and weaknesses and that’s the beauty of it.

  3. Great post! I’m not a parent, but I’ve had plenty of little ones in my life and they really do develop and do things in their own times. Yes, there’s some things where you might need to get a specialist to help with – like if they aren’t talking at all by a certain age, etc. but there’s nothing wrong with getting help either. Lovely quote – so true.

    -Lauren

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