Cocktail Chat 12.11.18
Grab yourself a cup of Christmas cheer…or at the very least a beer. I’m in a ranting mood today, so let’s toss back a few and air some grievances, even if Festivus isn’t for another week. I’m also going full on Mama Bear here, so watch out.
Ollie told me something that kind of didn’t sit well with me yesterday. He said his teacher told him he’s a daydreamer. Now, I am not saying she said it as a criticism, but based on some things she mentioned at our conferences earlier this year, it does make me wonder. She’s a new teacher this year so I’ve been trying to cut her some slack and take things with a grain of salt, but the longer she’s been there the less I kind of like her approach to things. Here’s the thing. Oliver is spirited. He’s energetic. He’s also rather intelligent. I’m not sitting here trying to boast, it’s just a fact ,anyone who meets him will tell you this. He may be needing to move along at a rate different from the other kids. The Montessori method and classroom are fantastic, but he is now one of the oldest in his class and sometimes simply gets bored. He is also five. Three, four and five year olds should not be expected to sit completely still all day long, in fact, they can’t. And as for him being a daydreamer? What is wrong with that? Some of the world’s greatest creators, inventors, artists, and scientists were all called daydreamers once upon a time too and now we have things like oh I don’t know iPhones, computers, life saving medicines and medical equipment, museums full of art, movies, music, I could go on and on.
My child is unique. I know this. He socializes differently than other kids his age because he is around mostly adults, it is part of the curse and blessing of being an only child. I know, I was one too. And I turned out just fine. He’s going to be just fine too.I love his uniqueness. At the age of five he has already figured out something that I’m only just learning in my late 30s and have talked about a lot lately – you don’t have to fit into a cookie cutter of what people expect you to be. It’s OK to just be yourself and to do so loud and proud. And if others don’t like it, then they aren’t the right people for you. I say it all the time, but this kid is teaching me just as much as I’m teaching him.
He has a half year left of Montessori and he’ll be fine there. But I think he’s ready for kindergarten next year. I think he’s going to thrive and I think once he’s not being “held back” so to speak he’s really going to fly. And I can’t wait to see it. Dreamers are doers. He’s going to do great things.
Dear Ollie – Never let ANYONE dull your shine. Love, Mom