10 on the 10th – Ten Things Motherhood Has Taught Me
In honor of Mother’s Day, Simple Purposeful Living chose the theme of ten things motherhood has taught us for the 10 on the 10th link up. I’ve often reflected on the various things I’ve experienced as a parent, but I don’t know if I’ve ever really thought about the things I’ve learned – and I’ve learned plenty. He is teaching me just as much as I’m teaching him! Here are ten of the things that stick with me the most.
(1) Don’t underestimate the value of good sleep. My child did not sleep through the night until he was 15 months old. He has gone through periods of occasional night waking here and there since then, but nothing too bad. Now that he is a good sleeper, I still find I’m a better mom if I make sure I’m getting sleep at night too. So sometimes that means putting down my book or turning off the TV early and getting a good night of sleep.
(2) Always expect the unexpected. We’ll go through a phase and think we have it all figured out and know what we’re doing and then boom. It changes. So, we have learned to never get too comfortable with a current situation, because it can change in a heartbeat.
(3) There will always be mom guilt. And you will forever second guess everything. Mom guilt is REAL. Whether it’s leaving them to go to work or leaving them with daddy to have a girls night or even for simply punishing them when they’ve done something naughty, you’ll always feel guilty. And you’ll always ask yourself, did I do the right thing? Am I doing enough? Am I enough?
(4) Embrace life’s messes. I used to pride myself on having the cleanest, neatest, most organized house on the block. I cleaned everything like clockwork once a week. But the truth is, that doesn’t matter. What matters is spending time with my son while he’s little and enjoying this time with him. No, I don’t let him live in filth, but guess what? Life is messy. It’s ok to let some of that other stuff go.
(5) It’s ok to ask for help. I’ve always been fiercely independent and can figure out a lot of things on my own, but sometimes you just can’t do it all. It’s ok to reach out when your defenses are down. I’m so blessed we have an amazing village that supports us and helps out when we need it.
(6) Stop and smell the roses. Slow down and appreciate the moment you’re in. It passes by so fast. Appreciate the little things. See the world through your child’s eyes.
(7) Poop is funny. I’m not talking actual poop (although you do look back and laugh sometimes at various diaper mishaps) but what I’m getting at is, kids find things like bodily functions, silly words, and other things of that nature to be hilarious. If you stop and think about it for a minute, they’re kind of right. So laugh along with them. Be silly. Have fun.
(8) You will be happy and sad at the same time and quite often. It’s that curse of being so happy and proud of your child for advancing in something, growing and learning, but you’ll be sad because they’re getting older. You’ll love the moment they are in, but you’ll miss what once was. You’ll cry tears of sadness and joy at the same time. But your heart will always smile.
(9) You are stronger than you realize. I have done so many things I never dreamed possible since having Ollie, starting with the day he was born – natural childbirth, breastfeeding for 15 months, sitting up with him all night when he was teething or sick (and sometimes even still working the next day) and the list goes on and on. I am his Mama Bear. I fight for him and his health and well being and I don’t let anything or anyone get in the way. It has made me a stronger person in life, not just as mom.
(10) Your dreams have come true. It’s cliche maybe, but I was meant to be his mom. I was the girl who played with her dolls and always wanted to be a mother. I went through a phase in my late 20s/early 30s where I thought maybe I didn’t need to be a mom but I had this empty feeling. Once we were expecting him the emptiness disappeared and he has made me complete. He makes me a better person. He’s everything I ever wanted. And I love being his mom.