Beth

One Little Word 2018

For the last four years I’ve chosen a word of the year to be my main focus. I learned of this concept through some other bloggers and found it’s a movement known as One Little Word. I started with choosing a word the year Ollie was born and each year I think the word I’ve chosen has really aligned with where I was with my life. 2014 was Simplify (trying to simplify my life as a new mom). 2015 was Embrace (embracing change as I looked for a new job). 2016 was Present (being present in the moment after so much change) and 2017 was Purpose (trying to give back). The word I struggled with the most was last year’s. I’ve talked a bit already about how my original intent and goal was to live a life of purpose and make a difference in this crazy world. But halfway through the year I realized I couldn’t do it all.  I then made it my purpose to figure out my own happiness because I also realized I wasn’t doing enough to take care of myself. I was saying yes to too much, I was doing too much to make others happy, which I do love to do, but that it left me feeling like I was serving from an empty cup. I kept joking with people that maybe my word of 2018 needed to be “ME.” I was not focusing enough attention on myself. And then I realized, why can’t it be about me? I found a word that kind of embodies that, but sounds far less selfish.

I am going to nourish myself so I can do a better job of nourishing those around me. I have blogged about self care more times than I can count. I have talked at length about the metaphor of how you can’t save someone else on an airplane until your oxygen mask is in place. But guess what? I might preach to the choir but I ain’t taking my own advice. No more. I’m finally putting myself first. And guess what else? It’s not selfish. I will no longer feel guilty about putting my own health and well being first.

I will say no to things that don’t give me joy. I am going to Marie Kondo the shit out of my life (truth be told I much prefer the parody of that book though “The Joy of Leaving Your Shit All Over The Place.) I will ask for help when I need it. I will admit it if I’m getting overwhelmed. I will let myself have me time. I will get my hair done, get my nails done and buy the damn shoes. I will take the time each day for something that fills my cup. Reading a book, taking a bath, playing with my kid.

I think moms struggle with this this most, we are on 24/7. It is a full time job and then some. And I LOVE it more than anything. But I will be a much better mom – and wife – if I nourish myself. Then I can nourish my husband and son. And finally those around me. I’m going to plant the seeds of self love right now. I am going to tend to my own garden and watch it grow and then when it’s blooming, I can share my harvest with others.

 

10 thoughts on “One Little Word 2018

  1. I love your word for 2018! I’ve never done a word before, but this year I have decided to embrace it! Hope you enjoy your day with your little guy!

  2. I keep saying the last year was about the kids and not me but as I look back, I realize that I did a good job and taking time for me when I needed it. Not every time, and not immediately when I needed it, but I would go out for supper, I would go for a run, or I would run errands in the evening by myself and pick up a treat for myself. It’s always nice when you realize you’ve been intuitively doing something. And really, that’s the goal, isn’t it? To take time for ourselves without having to consciously do it? That being said, in the few weeks I’ve been back at work, I’ve found that I don’t have the time, so I’ve moved myself back down the list. So Sunday nights? They are my nights. Drinking a glass of wine. Soaking my feet. Catching up on tv, or ignoring the world. Sigh. Is it Sunday yet?

  3. I love love love this post so friggin much.

    Also? I’m totally wild about your new blog design–YAY, you!

    Okay, but let’s get back to your word of the year. Because NOURISH is perfect, and SO wonderful for you. I know how much you love to make others around you happy, but you’re absolutely right. If your cup isn’t full, there’s no way you can give of yourself. I’m proud of you for taking care of your needs and putting yourself first–there is NOTHING selfish about that. Actually, quite the contrary, I think.

    Love you and can’t wait to see what’s to come from you this year <3

  4. I love the word that you picked for this year. It’s a good one and can be applied to so many areas. Looking forward to following along here!

    I’ll be picking my word for 2018 shortly too….

  5. I love this! And I think it’s great that you are focusing so much on yourself this year. It’s not selfish at all. Another blogger is focusing on self-care this year as their “word” or “phrase” so I love that you are both on the same wave length.

    -Lauren

  6. I love this word! What a great choice, and such an important thing to do as both a mom and woman. I didn’t pick a word yet, and I’m not sure if I’ll get to one, but you’ve given me some great inspiration. Ps. I Love, Love, Love your new name and look of your blog!!! Happy 2018!

  7. I love this post so much and the word that you’ve chosen for 2018.
    You are so right – you cannot give to others if your cup is empty. I wish you all the best with your plans as you put this word into practice.
    By the way I love the part “buy the damn shoes”. Go for it!!

  8. Yes!! I love nourish and everything you are saying here. Being a mom is hard work–wonderful work, but hard–and sometimes it can feel so selfish to take time for yourself. But it shouldn’t!! I think understanding that we need to take time for ourselves and actually DOING IT are two different things. Here’s to nourishing yourself this year Beth!

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