Eat the Damn Donut

I’m going to get real again today. Apparently these early mornings bring out the philosophical side of me? Anyway, today I want to touch on my happiness journey again (trying to pull myself out of the muck of yesterday I guess) and one thing that played a huge part in being a happier person. It’s probably going to sound so simple, but it was something I realized recently.

Fact – after having Ollie I lost a lot of weight from breastfeeding (and likely new parent stress if we’re being honest). I was down to sizes I hadn’t seen since high school. And I will admit, I liked it. Although I’ll admit to having a little reverse body shaming at the time, “Wow, Beth, you’re so skinny.” “I wish I could be that skinny.” “Must be nice to be so skinny.” “Well you’re just a little bitty thing aren’t you?” At first I was kind of obsessed with staying down to that size, maybe because of some of those comments. I was healthy about it, I ate regular meals, but Nate and I were seriously tracking calories. And I was kind of denying myself treats. The biggest hang up for me? Donuts. I wouldn’t eat donuts because I was so afraid of the calories. I was also not really doing ice cream or other sweet treats. I let myself have a cookie at lunchtime and that was pretty much it. Eventually our lifestyle started to shift a bit, we relaxed our rigidness, we weren’t so serious about counting calories, I stopped breastfeeding, I adjusted to parenthood and well, some weight came back. But I was and still am ok with that. Last year I wrote a post about accepting my body and that still holds true now. In the end, I actually didn’t love being that super skinny. It didn’t make me happy.

You know what makes me happy? Eating donuts with my son. Enjoying an occasional ice cream cone in the summer time. Snacking on Dark Chocolate Peanut M&Ms while we watch a movie. PMS-eating Chex Muddy Buddies. You see where I’m going here? I am happier if I let myself enjoy those treats. So simple right? I don’t overdo it. But I no longer deny myself. I’m not going to be defined by my clothing size or the number on the scale. I’m of average weight and height and that’s fine. I eat a well balanced diet. I exercise. But I eat the damn donut. And I enjoy it.

I am not here to offend anyone actively dieting and working to lose weight. Those things are important for health and I get that. So please know that is not my intention in this post. Your journey is your journey. Mine is mine. But in my journey, life is too short. So I choose happiness. I choose the donut.


10 thoughts on “Eat the Damn Donut

  1. I love this post! I totally believe in balance (still trying to achieve it myself at times) but denying yourself simple pleasures doesn’t bring a huge amount of happiness. It can bring a huge amount of resentment and being skinny doesn’t cancel it out.
    Life is so short – and it is made up of some magical moments that so often we miss because of what the numbers on the scale will say.
    That donut looks delicious by the way!

  2. I love this post so much! Even though I’m trying to loose a little weight, I’m not denying myself the sweets if I want them. It’s all about moderation. I’ve actually stopped weighing myself because I’m trying to learn that it isn’t the number on the scale that counts.

  3. I’m glad you mentioned reverse body shaming because it is totally a “thing” and I don’t think people even realize they’re doing it half the time. And I agree- everything in moderation! Denial would just make me hangry lol. Love the positive message- I’ll take a donut too!

  4. Man, that donut looks amazing! I actually gained weight after both my pregnancies. Breastfeeding had me holding onto the weight…or maybe it was eating everything in sight. Anyways, it took me a long time to get it under control, but eventually I started tracking what I ate and lost weight too. I definitely liked the changes and how I felt, but I couldn’t deny myself everything either. I still eat sweet, and can’t go without a drink or two when we’re out. Moderation I think is the key.

  5. You are so right that we need to do what is best for ourselves. For me its seeing the difference between a treat and a distraction. Keep up the good work my dear!!

  6. Oh yum! I’m in a weight loss program so I’m really NOT supposed to indulge in things…but shhh…I do it anyway. I’m doing well on my program though, and I’m losing weight and feeling better and that’s the main thing. I do think people deny themselves things like this too often – it’s okay here and there!

  7. Amen, I choose the donut too! Or in my case, the ice cream 🙂 Right now I’m still pumping so it has definitely helped me lose a lot of the baby weight. I have a feeling though once I’m done with that I will have a lot of these same struggles with body image. I hope I can have that healthy attitude like you have if I do start to notice things changing in ways I’m not happy about. I think you look fantastic and plus when you’re happy I think it just shows! So yes, you eat that donut sister 🙂

  8. Food is delicious. When it’s delicious and nutritious that’s even better. But when it’s nutritious and makes you feel bad about yourself? That’s not good. I keep repeating “moderation! Moderation! Moderation!” because I tend to binge on junk and then go restrictively nutritious and that isn’t good at all. But it is hard trying to find a balance that makes the reflection in the mirror, the image in our head, the fit of our clothes and, probably most importantly, our health (mentally and physically) all balance out. Kudos to you for getting there!

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