Beth Nate

Wedding Week

This Friday, Nate and I celebrate 10 years of marriage. And yes we already sort of celebrated with our big anniversary trip in April, but a ten year anniversary deserves more than that. So, sorry not sorry, I’m declaring this wedding week on the blog.  Reflections, memories, old pictures, a special edition of Throwback Thursday journal posts, it’s all happening.  Because I’m nostalgic like that.

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I love the life we’ve built together.  And I truly love where we are.  But sometimes I wish I could go back and do all that stuff again. Wedding planning was stressful at times, but it was also so much fun.  Trying on dresses, picking out flowers.  Showers and bachelorette parties. So many fun moments.  Sometimes it feels like yesterday.  Sometimes it feels like a lifetime ago.

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I wrote a letter to myself on my fifth anniversary that I want to share here, because it still kind of holds true today.

Dear Bride to Be Beth,

In a few short days you will marry the love of your life and all of your dreams will finally come through. You’ve waited a long time for this day and I promise you it will be everything you ever wanted and more. However, I’m writing you from the future to offer a bit of advice in these final days. You did nothing wrong, but these are things I wish you’d known then that would’ve helped just a little bit as you prepared to be someone’s wife.

First of all, stop stressing out so much about your current job situation. Yes your church job is being cut to part time. Yes you won’t have benefits anymore if you stay. And yes, the job you have interviewed for and really, really want is taking their sweet time getting back to you, but guess what, when you get home from your honeymoon, they are going to call and offer you the job – so relax! Stop thinking about it so much and instead revel in the fact that you are a bride!

Second of all, stop stressing out about the purchase of your house. It might take you a few months, but you and Nate will get everything all figured out and worked out and you’ll be homeowners by summer’s end. You won’t be homeless, you won’t have to go live in an apartment. That is your house baby, ain’t no one will be taking that away from you!

Third, stop and smell the roses. These moments, they will pass you by so fast. You will be amazed at how quickly it is all over and done. And I know you will cherish every last minute, but the above stresses may hinder you just a little bit. So just try your best. You’ll have pictures and videos that will allow you to relive the day, but nothing compares to being there. Being present. Try hard to stay in the moment.

Fourth, it’s going to be hot on your wedding day. After a spring filled with rainy cool days (that seemed to fall on every single day you had a wedding shower) it will be in the 90’s on May 27th and there is nothing you can do about it. Deal with it. Oh and stop being a brat and go take pictures outside with your bridesmaids. Nate and the boys did it and you’re going to regret the fact that you didn’t.

And fifth, more for your actual marriage, just remember this boy you are marrying is not a boy. He is a man. He is not perfect and neither are you. Your relationship will be different now that you are living together. There will be moments that you frustrate one another or endure difficulties. But honey, it’s normal. And for every moment like those, you will have double in moments of joy and excitement. You’ll have wonderful and amazing adventures. Five years into your marriage you will find yourself loving Nate more than you ever thought possible and still growing every single day. And that’s what it’s really all about.

Love,
Happily married five years Beth

And now another five years have passed and I still love him just as much as day one.  And guess what, the second half of our first decade of marriage was not without it’s ups and downs either (hello, we became parents) but I’d still do it all again in a heartbeat.  I’ve used this quote before but it’s one of my very favorites.  It’s from the movie Parenthood and it’s said by the old grandmother to Steve Martin and Mary Steenburgen in a difficult moment in their relationship. “I went to a fair once and rode the roller coaster. It was so exciting. Up, down, up, down. After that, we rode the merry go round.  It wasn’t as much fun. It just goes around. I prefer the roller coaster.”

Ten years in and I agree.  I love our roller coaster and I’m never getting off.

Come back tomorrow for memories of my bachelorette party – it was one of the funnest days of my life.

8 thoughts on “Wedding Week

  1. Happy Wedding Week to you!!! I can’t believe it’s been 10 years on Friday! Look how young we both looked! I can’t wait to relive all the memories this week!! Love you both!!!

  2. Happy anniversary and wedding week! I’m excited to see what else you share, and I love that you’re making a whole theme week out of it.

  3. I loved this sweet, nostalgic post Beth! 10 years is certainly worth the double celebration! We will be celebrating our 10 year anniversary this summer too–it is amazing to think it was a DECADE ago we got married. We were such babies 🙂 I loved the letter to yourself, what a great idea!

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